Truthful Tuesday¦ Comparing Yourself

Hello Lovelies.
This last few weeks have been super hard for me and I've found myself caught up in a whirlwind of self- hatred. I cannot stand my body at the moment and I've decided to sort out a new diet regime and exercise plan to help me. However, I always find myself comparing my body to that of other girls and working myself up about how my legs aren't as thin as hers or how my stomach isn't as flat as hers.

In actual fact, my legs might not be as thin as hers and my stomach may not be as flat as hers, but I'm still human like her. Everyone is the same on the inside and its not about being in competition with other girls/ boys, it's about being in competition with yourself and being the best version of yourself you can be. You are good enough and you should never let anybody make you believe that you have to prove yourself. Only you can be you, nobody else and that's why you're the best. Nobody can be you like yourself.

No matter what you look like on the outside, whether you are curvy or thin, it's your personality that reflects who you are. So why not be confident? Embrace what you have and be happy with it. Change anything you dislike, but only if that's because you're not happy with it, not other people. There will always be people that love you for you and that wouldn't want a thing to change about you. They might not say it all of the time but it's true. You are loved. Everyone is different on the outside, different shapes and sizes but making that the epitome of life is shallow minded. Its what is on the inside that counts.

It's sad that people compare themselves to others and don't feel good enough in their own skin. However, there are assets you may have that others might not and that is what makes us all different. The world would be boring if we all looked and acted the same right? Be yourself, be interesting and funny and keep doing all those silly things you do, because they make you who you are. Never stop being who you are.
You should never have to prove yourself to anybody.

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Do you find yourself comparing yourself with others?
Leave any comments below, they really are appreciated.

All my love.
K

Truthful Tuesday¦ Looking Forward

Hello Lovelies.
As 2014 is coming to a close, I thought it would be a perfect time to write about something that I think is the key to a healthy mind, looking forward. 2015 is near and we can use this opportunity for a new start, to leave the bad behind and move forward with a sound mind. 

Dwelling on the bad things that have happened in the past was a big problem of mine when my anxiety was at its worst, until I realised there is actually no point. The hands on the clock only turn one way and we can't undo things that have already happened. Therefore we may as well accept them and move forward on to better things. I know that I used to lie in bed at night and shower myself with the 'what ifs', but that only fills your mind with rubbish and confusion. Yeah, bad things have happened and they will still happen, but we can't change that. Everything really does happen for a reason and I know that all the hits we face in life only make us stronger. 

 

The more time you spend analyzing things that you can't change, the less time you will spend enjoying the moment you're living in. Don't over think your problems and enjoy the little things because they will always be the big things when you look back on life. Give yourself something to look forward to. Book a holiday or a trip, organize something with friends, go on date night with your partner or spend the night in with your parents. It doesn't matter as long as you are comfortable, happy and living for now. 

 

Trust yourself and trust the future. Life is what you make it and I learned this the hard way. It's never going to be a walk in the park, but make it easier for yourself by letting go of your demons. Those times in your life that haunt you. The bullies, the bad boyfriends, the arguments with your parents.. whatever it is, let it go and live in the moment. Create the best future you can and the best will follow you. 

What are you looking forward to for 2015?
Leave any comments below, they really are appreciated!

All my love
K